I love / hate Facebook

See, I have a love hate relationship with Facebook. As I have friends and relatives who are overseas, Facebook was a platform for me to stay in touch with them on how are they progressing with their lives out of Singapore.

I added friends from my past schools, past companies, people whom I've worked with, party animal friends etc. Basically I only accepted the friend's requests from people who I've met personally. Perhaps only 1% out of the 1629 friends on my list are people whom i have not met in my entire life. Pick anyone on my list and I'm able to share with you how I've met him or her.

Looking at the number of friends, I am amazed by the number of people I know. I'm usually active on Facebook updating my status or uploading pictures. I could be sharing a photo of my lunch Kway Chap (Stewed pork innards with flat rice noodles) or checking into Handlebar just so that my friends know it is a cool place to go to. I make sure my friends know what is going on in my life, especially friends who are overseas and communication over phone doesn't seem to be "convenient".

I was super active on Facebook while I was travelling. I posted photos of beaches, or the food. It was a form of letting my family members know that I was safe or a way of telling my uncle and aunt it was their mistake of not joining me at Bangkok.

It is odd that my best friend who knows me inside out doesn't give a hoot about me on Facebook. She prefers us to update each other of our "oh-so-exciting-life" face to face, over coffee or while walking aimlessly in one of the shopping malls along Orchard Road. (Yes, Orchard Road does have a website, my fellow Singaporeans) I'm glad as sometimes ranting off to a friend who would bitched back to you in union is better than typing furiously on the keyboard.

But of late, I've grown quiet or rather I should say I'm making an effort to lay low on my Facebook. I've decided that Facebook holds a big group of attention seekers and that I no longer enjoy  the feeds on my Facebook page. It has somehow became a platform for some of my friends who would conveniently use it to whine or to complaint about the most mundane stuff. For eg. The bus was 10 minutes late. I would say "Get a Twitter dude!"
However, I do have some friends who whined or complained with style, and they did with really wicked humor. That's entertainment!

One evening last week, I spent 4hrs cleaning up my list of friends. I removed people that I've only met once in my entire life and that I was pretty sure that our paths will not be crossed again in the future. Those on the removed list are usually people I met when I was living my clubber's life. Oh, I removed a few as they appeared to be stalking on me for some odd reasons or that they liked every single photo of almost naked women off a page. I shan't go into details on what happened.


This was the most decent photo I took screenshot of.

This was the most decent photo I took screenshot of.

See the screenshot image on the left? I was following the news on Malaysia's General Election since most of my friends were there in Malaysia and were constantly updating the situation in Malaysia on Facebook, and this guy was constantly spamming my news feeds with images like these. Why it showed up? It was Facebook's way of saying "Hey Samantha, your friend is checking out and wanking to some pics of hot chicks on Hot and Sexy Girls In The World page." It was nerves wrecking especially when it happened at such a crucial timing when I was following the news of Malaysia GE on Facebook!(The most reliable source of information from friends who were there) I screenshot a few of the feeds and I PM-ed him.

My message to Jackson

Have I considered deactivating my Facebook account? Oh yes but that would means losing all the photos and also it would be impossible for me to manage a few pages on behalf of a few organisations. So I decided, I shall lay low and spend more time on updating my blog. And if I really need to find out how my friends are doing, it doesn't kill to open up the Facebook and hit straight to their page.

Alright. I'm done ranting. Feels soooooo awesome!

Note to self: Not to be a irritating attention seeker on Facebook. For example posting an update "What should I have for lunch?" and when people suggested a few choices, my replies would be "Nah, too fattening. Too expensive. Too oily. Etc" Cos if it irritates me, it sure irritates others!

Name this "Eye"

I typed a few sentences here. In fact, paragraphs.

Then I hit "backspace", cleared up the text editor and I stared at the screen.

My brain's been fried. I can't think of anything. So I'm just gonna post a photo here.

Make a guess where's this "eye" from?

I'm utterly mad with WordPress.com Argh. One step nearer to moving over to blogger again all cos of a damn AdSense.

Welcome back to Blogger!

Haven't logged into BlogSpot for years and I'm surprised to see the changes here! Will find some time to build this up again.

New year, new start.

This year marks the last year of me being a 20 odd plus woman. I'm stepping into the big 30. Look foward to it? Nah. Loathe it? Nah.

 

I have left my company which Ive worked for the past three years. I would say it was a good decision cos I'm enjoying the freedom I have right now. My lifestyle changed immediately. I'm no longer constantly on my phone textinng or making phone calls, and I'm not wearing my watch anymore to keep track of time every 5 - 10 mins.

 

Made some travel plans and can't wait to embark on this journey. It is not just a journey of exploring countries, soaking myself in different cultures, savouring different cuisines, getting pissed at some cheap local pubs... it is also a journey of self discovery, again.

2013 has been kind to me thus far.

 

My relationship with family has grown so much better. My brother and I are on talking terms again, and I hope this is not just a temporary change. Its really nice and heart warming when my brother offered to bring my boyfriend around when I was not free. Or that through little gestures, he showed that he cared.

 

I'm more opened up to my mother about my life. I've grown to be more patient with her. I shared alot with her on my drinking experiences just over one McDonald breakfast. I hope my patience with the naggy Empress Dowager will last till the end. She was glad that I finally left my job and she encouraged me to start something of my own. She even offered cash! Those of you who know her, you know she is a woman who's down to earth, who scrimped and saved every penny so that her children could have a better life. Those are her hard earn $$. Anyway, she mentioned about travelling to Taiwan for holiday sometime soon. Trip to Hainan with Uncle and Aunt is in the planning too. I'm enjoying this moment!

 

Also, I'm attached to the sweetest and most loving man I have ever meet in my entire life. Times when I think back during my last week of work, I was glad he was there with me. I've never felt so complete as a person cos of another person. I've never been able to be myself in front of any man but him. Everyday when I think of him, I thank the One above for letting me meet him at the bar last year, and also for the courage to make moves to want to be back on the island again this year.. I always believe that good things are worth the long wait. Trev is probably one of the reasons why I suffered so many heartbreaks in the past so that I wouldn't end up with the wrong guy but with him!

I'm not in a hurry to get a job. In fact, I'm thinking of laying myself off work for a year. If I ever need cash, I can always fall back on doing some freelance work here and there. But let's see.. cos I know there will be one day when I get sick of sitting at home bumming around.

 

Chinese New Year's round the corner. Have a good reunion everyone. If you can't be there, make a phone call back.